“Do I really have to settle just because I’m over 40 and child-free?”

Single women over 40 are unappealing,” they said. “You’re too old for love,” they claimed. To which I say, “Who are ‘they,’ and why do they care so much?” Let’s settle this once and for all—these myths are as outdated as low-rise jeans. Women over 40 aren’t just “still in the game”; we are the game. Let’s bust some myths and prove that mature, child-free women bring a lot more to the dating table than most people are ready to handle.

Be honest, how many times have you convinced yourself that your ‘situationship’ would magically turn into a Hallmark movie? Spoiler alert: It’s not happening.

"Is it me, or is it you?"If you've ever found yourself questioning your own reality after someone vanished from your life while making you feel like it’s all your fault, congratulations—you’ve encountered ghostlighting. This insidious combination of ghosting and gaslighting is a relationship buzzkill designed to mess with your mind. But fear not, ladies! We’re unpacking the drama, setting boundaries, and learning how to thrive beyond the nonsense.

Have you ever dreamt of falling in love with a celebrity? Imagine chatting with Brad Pitt online, only to discover that it’s not actually him—but a smooth-talking scam artist who’s after your money. Sounds like a nightmare, right? It definitely was for a 53-year-old woman named Anne thought she was in a long-term romance with Brad Pitt—until she realized she’d been scammed out of $850,000. Don’t let this happen to you!"

Dating in the modern era can be tricky, and for women over 40 who are childfree, it often feels like navigating a minefield. One particularly toxic dating trend making waves is “benching.” Unlike ghosting, where someone disappears completely, benching is the art of stringing someone along—keeping them just interested enough to stay on the sidelines without giving them the attention or commitment they deserve.

“Why settle for crumbs when you can have the whole cake?”This bold question sets the tone for women over 40 who are confidently child-free and unapologetically living life on their terms. Having high standards isn’t about being picky; it’s about protecting your peace, valuing your time, and knowing your worth. When you hold firm to your standards, you’re not just raising the bar—you’re raising your vibration, making it easy for the wrong men (read: trash) to take themselves out without you lifting a finger.

Ladies, let’s set the record straight: the real MVP of your dating life isn’t your body—it’s your confidence, wit, and unparalleled life experience. As Jermaine Stewart once crooned, “You don’t have to take your clothes off to have a good time, oh no!” And if you’re over 40, child-free, and living your best life, you know this anthem hits differently. Let’s dive into why your dating life is fire—fully clothed and fabulous.

Have you ever felt like your love life had a seasonal expiration date? Brace yourself—sledging is the frosty trend you didn’t know you needed to avoid.

Have you heard of Throning? It’s the new dating trend where love takes a backseat, and “leveling up” becomes the main attraction. The concept is simple: date someone with social clout, place them on a pedestal, and bask in the reflected glory. It’s like networking, but with candlelight dinners. When I first came across this trend it raised some red flags for me, but I couldn’t help but find the concept of "throning" somewhat fascinating and provocative! 

Let's be real: life doesn’t come with a pre-set timeline, no matter what society tells us. For many child-free women over 40, the idea of marriage was never off the table; it was just waiting for the right time (or maybe the right person). And now, cultural shifts are giving more women the freedom to choose what they want, when they want it—including tying the knot later in life.

Ladies, let’s be real for a moment: just because we’ve hit 40 (and then some), and have opted for the childfree path, doesn’t mean we’ve entered some twilight zone where men can no longer see us. If anything, we’re like fine wine—getting better, bolder, and more appealing with age! But I get it. Sometimes it feels like society—and yes, even the dating world—seems to prioritize youth like it’s going out of style. So, are we really invisible? Spoiler alert: nope.